They are all over my house in some fashion. On our blackboard wall, on this blog, in my quotes journals, etc. They are everywhere. I love the bullet point therapy session they provide. You hear it. It sinks in. It clicks.
The quote that I am holding in my heart right now is by Theodore Roosevelt. "Comparison is the thief of joy." Read it again. Comparison is the THIEF of joy. Comparing yourself to others will ROB you of your life.
I am a woman. I was once a teenage girl and I was once a little girl. Now I am the mother of a little girl. As women, I think we are trained at an early age to look around at others and made to feel like the person in the mirror is not good enough. Look left and right. What does she have that makes her so happy? Why is she so much prettier than me? What about that couple makes them so happy? Why is that mother mothering better than me?
We all do it. We all questions outside of ourselves instead of looking inside. God forbid we acknowledge that we are enough. When in reality, we do the best we can and that is good enough. If I spend all my time comparing myself to others, I am going to miss out on the joy that is my life. The look my Husband gives only to me, his wife. My daughter's giggles that she gives only to me, her mother. I REFUSE to miss my joy. Some days it is a second by second reminder, but the power of this quote brings it to my mental surface. I stop. I take a breath and I speak my gratitude. Gratitude births joy.
As a mother, I do not want my daughter to suffer as I did through my teens and 20's, but in reality, she will. I want her to know that she is good enough. I hope that by growing up with this quote on our gallery wall and all the other quotes I will rain down on her, that some will stick. That some small tidbit will give her the courage to say "F - it. I am going to be me and I am good enough." I want her to know that in the whole huge world of comparisons, she is prefect to me, her mother and I want her to feel that joy all the way down to her toes.
So for all of you that need a daily reminder, here is my favorite quote as a 5x7 DIY FREE PRINTABLE for you. Enjoy and remember not to let that so-called perfect person, scenario, couple, job, etc. rob you of your joy.
My immediate internal reaction to something new was always "hell NO I can't do that!" This fault has caused me to miss some major opportunities in my life (like having one of my finch&hawk® printable designs in a major fashion magazine).
Not too long ago, I was bouncing around Twitter and I stopped on a tweet from the Huffington Post OWN division. It said "Tina Fey's #1 Rule For Success." Something in my gut (love that gut instinct) told me to click on the link. I did...and things started happening. Immediately.
The link was to Tina Fey's Success Secret: 'Say Yes'. It told the story of how in her professional career, when she was presented with a scary new opportunity, she said YES and figured out the logistics later. So simple. Scary, but simple. I thought, "what If I try this?" Then I thought, "Screw it. I AM going to try this."
You guys, I am not kidding, the NEXT DAY I was emailed about a wholesale opportunity for finch&hawk® notepads. I normally do not offer wholesale because it just seemed like uncharted territory, but I responded yes and figured everything out. Set up my printers. Set up my pricing (helpful wholesale formula found in Craft Inc.). Set up my labeling. Hand delivered to client. It was fantastic!
There seem to be 2 types of people in the world. The "Say Yes" people who figure out how to get it done after they commit. And the "Say No" people who are too afraid to even give it a chance and miss major life experiences. I conquered my biggest personal fear (giving birth) and now I get to kiss my little girl everyday. Professionally, I have turned down too many jaw dropping opportunities. No more. I am not saying to say yes to every project or experience, but if your immediate gut reaction says YES! Go for it! I know you can do it. Here is to holding hands and stepping into the unknown together. I bet there is magic on the other side!